Fears of Lost Manhood
One of the great distorters and corruptors of the minds and hearts of guys who want to submit to gals is gender shame.
Gender shame: the assumption that authentic manhood requires to be dominant. Man is born to be the boss.
Ancient patriarchal nonsense that perhaps even served the cause of species survival in our races prehistory. Social inertia, a reluctance to relinquish privilege, the inevitable fear of seeming different sustained this false dichotomy of the sexes. And – while much diminished – still does.
And it is mostly a myth. The bulk of heterosexual relationships at least in the Western democracies I assume my readers live in are generally equal. Ascendancy in decision making varying according to situation, skill set and inclination.
There’s no real diminishment of manhood in cooperating, relenting to, even submitting to another person, even if that person is female. Everybody knows that is true at work. The same is true between spouses, partners and lovers.
I think this shame is responsible for the mad fantasies of matriarchal racism, the sad notions of female superiority that eerily parallel racism and anti-Semitism.
If you require accepting the loving authority or the consensual cruelty of a woman don’t feel guilty. Don’t care what others think. The only shame is in not fulfilling your honest human need for submission.
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In the drawing, the woman’s lithe lusciousness seems to me accentuated by her daintiness in comparison with the bulky but strong and healthy man. I wonder if there is subconscious aesthetic component to the gender shame less-developed men feel; if on some level, we also want to look like these “he-men” because our women will somehow look all the better next to us (I guess I find a woman’s lithe daintiness attractive–a quality rarely found these days). Anyway, I wonder if some men are ashamed when they don’t meet this standard? Just thinking out loud…just want to understand.