Comments on: Female Led Cougar

By: justin

justin — Sun, 31 Oct 2010 16:08:27 +0000

That post irritated me and I beleive you are wrong wrong WRONG on several fronts.
I am a 20 year old guy now in a relationship with a wonderful 41 year old lady.
Obviously I cant speak for other guys or ladies here since I have really had limited intimate r/l experience with any other so called ‘cougars’ out there (only this one seriously for only about 2 years.)
I do want to say to all the people who think that this type of female is ‘boring’ etc is nothing could be further from the truth and if you are bored or unsatisfied with your sex life maybe the fault lies somewhere within YOU and not in your partner.
The female cougar and especially the very sexually dominant one who know exactly what she wants and is willing to TAKE it is to me the most awesome thing in the world
So perhaps you just have not found the right person yet.
Just a thought.

By: Shadowlady

Shadowlady — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 15:09:54 +0000

Hmmm I sense a man with difficulties fulfilling his fantasies. Not surprising though. With his attitude it is not wonder no dominant women is interested.
See a dominant women – older or not – knows what she wants. One of the things they don’t want it a self centered fantasy driven do-me-the-way-I-want-to-be-domeinated man. We have better things to do than wasting our time.

By: Richard in Durham, NC

Richard in Durham, NC — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 13:20:34 +0000

That is a sadly sexist and hostile concept of female sexuality.

Actually it is submissive and masochistic men who are more likely to do whatever they can to attract and appeal to a dominant woman.

By: Astolfo

Astolfo — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 13:15:33 +0000

It is quite easy.

Women are not interested in femdom nor in any form of kink.

They are sexually boring creatures.

As they get older, they accept kinkier activities such as femdom to keep their husbands or to get new lovers in the face of strong competition from younger, more attractive women.

By: Jim

Jim — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 15:37:34 +0000

It was a cougar who introduced me to the femdom way! When I was 24 I started dating a 36 year old woman–or I should say she started dating me. Up to that point I had several girlfriends my age and I was used to getting my way sexually. I wasn’t abusive of course; I just didn’t know any better because that’s how males are taught to think about women and sex. Then I met Carol. After our 3rd date I tried to get her into bed and she rebuffed me by saying that it was too soon and she would let me know when she was ready. I tried again after our 4rd date a few days later and she said the same thing. The very next night I tried a 3rd time and success! She led me into her bedroom, started undressing me and got me into her bed. She then used scarves to tie my hands and feet to her bed, which was a first for me because I was used to being in charge in the bedroom but I thought “what the heck, I’ll let her and next time I’ll tie her up” Then she gagged my mouth and explained to me that sex is a gift from a woman to a man and the woman decides when and how to have sex, etc. and we would discuss this further in the morning. She left me naked tied and gagged the whole night. I was very embarrassed and humbled, especially after trying to get free and not having any luck. The scarves didn’t seem all that tight but I may as well have been in steel handcuffs–Carol really knew her knots!. The next morning we had a discussion about our budding relationship and she stated that she was going to lead the relationship and I could either accept it or we could part ways then and there. When I agreed to her demands, we had the most mind-blowing sex I ever had up until that point, with me still tied to her bed. We were together for almost two years in a totally female led relationship and she remains the most influential woman I have ever had in my life. I still run into her on occasion (we are on good terms) and it’s amazing just how sensual she is to me even though she is now almost 60 and has grey hair and has put on weight. I haven’t been in a femdom relationship since and in fact haven’t even been tied up but all the women in my life–including my wife–have benefitted from my time with Carol.

By: wannabe

wannabe — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 01:46:11 +0000

So how do you find such a woman?

By: nathanyl

nathanyl — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 04:00:03 +0000

ALthough subtle in terms of BDSM and femdom another fun aspect of being with an older lady is when she may use you as a “trophy partner. Once an older lady I was with got me to do a striptease for her friends- her friends thought I was just a hired stripper not her BF. .

By: Bob

Bob — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 16:08:44 +0000

I married a woman 7 1/2 years older than me. I’m happiest when she demands I wear my CB3000 continously. She has slowly increased every year and this year i will have worn it about half the time. I love her even more when she is bossy.

By: nathanyl

nathanyl — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 00:17:05 +0000

Most of my Mistresses have been older women, I find older women more interesting in general than silly giggly girls. I think though apart from the typical school mistress fantasies that most boys have it is because my personality is somewhat “older” than my peer group so it just feels right.

By: Doris

Doris — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 01:00:17 +0000

Before my wife determined that I would become her maid, she was 48 years old. She was active beyond any younger women I had known and far, far more demanding and controlling. An older woman who enjoys her superiority and extending this over a man… is the best that there can possibly be.