Within the BDSM community slave contracts are a common topic. Many have been written. Some quite bad. And nobody knows how many such contracts have been lived up to.
Within the perhaps less kinky and demanding realm of female led relationships should both parties perhaps craft some set of rule and regulations? Written statements of the roles including obligations both male and female have?
Such formal agreements could be considered a second set of wedding vows.
The real danger with such summaries, like many attempt at regulation is in unnecessary specificity, cumbersome complexity. But some may benefit by establishing boundaries clearly at the beginning. And any contract can be amended.
Earlier: Interspousal Agreements.
Originally posted 2008-04-30 13:49:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
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When my wife and I began our D/s relationship (I am the submissive and then her maid), she made a contract that I signed. The only downside to this is that the woman can (and I suppose it is common to) dismiss the entire relationship and return to a traditional relationship.
Mrs. Mule and I have a simple contract, “It won’t be boring.” 37 years and counting and it hasn’t been.
For me a contract verifies and silidifies what is expected of me. She can use it to humble
me and remind me of my place. Just her wanting it, requiring it is exciting.
Other than our marriage, we have no contract. I would find it stifling – I want to explore BDSM in many aspects and not be bound by something does not allow us to to change our mind on kink.
I have always totally puzzled by this need of contracts to define the relationship and what each partner should do. I guess I simply lack the imagination to see it.