So many female led, loving female authority blogs grow silent or vanish. Why?
Some say they fear exposure. Perhaps. But unless you are insanely unwise how can anyone learn who you are?
Some women grow weary of the advice and admonitions of pushy submissive men who try to tell her how to live her marriage. Who can blame her?
Some men give up the search.
A few vanish when cuckolding goes wrong.
Some men claim they’ve found female led bliss and have nothing to say. Is it that they have no more fantasies to share?
Others plug away month after month, hoping to sell their lifestyle. Tireless in spreading the gospel of loving female authority.
How many of you have a FLR or LFA blog or are just silent lurkers?
Originally posted 2007-09-10 18:42:18. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
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I have seen a lot of blogs come and go, even mine a couple of times. I think a day to day narrative of “wife whipped me because I didn’t fold the laundry correctly” doesn’t add much to the credibility to the lifestyle.
I would also hazard a guess that the way FLR is presented sounds to many women like “abdication of responsibility”. You’re going to zone out in your sexual fantasy while I shoulder more of the “reality” of the relationship and family life. Not all that appealing to some.
From a practical standpoint, I think some couples just come to the conclusion after exploration that the “female led bedroom” is as far as they want to go with this. It’s a fun, sexy game in a relationship of equals.
I always thought you said it the best in one of your great posts about vanilla couples exploring this lifestyle. You are both actors. You each play a part and then leave the stage. Very happily I might add:)
I agree that all these blogs are about fantasies (and am suspicious of much of what people write there about their lifestyles) but don’t think this has much to do with them dying out over time. Most blogs in general die out after a while, whether about FLR or anything else. After a while people get tired of it and move on to something else. And in the particular instance of FLR, there’s only so much you can write about the subject.
I predict that this website too will eventually be abandoned.
As a novice Domme and an avid writer for personal pleasure, when I found D/s I was happy to have such a huge and emotionally enjoyable topic to blog about. While my blog is intended for female readers, (as the premis of the blog is to write about the female side of things for a newbie) the confusing comments from men thwart my ambition.
Comments from men come from their perspective. So, while I can be enjoying my journey and post about something, the next thing I know a cryptic comment shows up. Then, I try to figure out what he’s talking about, put myself in his head, discover he’s not seeing it from the point of view I intended… and wind up frustrated.
There isn’t an easy cure besides turning off the comments, (which I suppose I’m going to have to do if I want to continue posting) but I hate the idea of missing comments from other women who might have some savvy advice or insight.
Grrrrr………………
On the best F/m blogs I read there are usually good comments from people of both genders.
I do have a blog … just started a couple of weeks ago. So far I have been trying to post once a week or so, not because I have nothing to say but because I don’t want to go through the topics too quickly. I have one other blog (non FLR/FemDom) and this strategy worked for me there long term.
Anyway, just my $0.02 and thanks for a great morning discussion topic.
Of course I read a lot of blogs, my RSS reader is chock full of them but now for the first time I started deleting some. There is plenty to choose from now, unlike few years ago. Some blogs focus on “philosophy” of FemDom and FLR but I quickly get tired of reading those. Especially from men who are not in such a relationship.To me, the philosophy is quite straightforward, albeit not always simple. Sometimes I am so busy keeping the house clean, doing to chores and serving my Mistress that I simply have no time or energy to post about what’s been going on.
I personally prefer personal accounts, even day to day posting if the blogger has time to do it. And I am very grateful to those who do. I am very curious to see how others live, both from the sub and the Dom perspective. Sure there may be a lot of repetition or similar posts but isn’t that how life is anyway? But I am sure this is just my personal preference.
So I guess, those who eventually settle into a smooth working FemDom marriage or a relationship simply stop writing because the “struggle to get there” was much more exciting for them than actually “being there”. But isn’t that like writing about you flight to your Caribbean vacation and not about the vacation itself?
I have a blog and have been keeping it for some time now. Actually I have two, one Femdom based and one for friends to read about my daily grind.
For me the femdom blog is a way to tell people what it is to live my life in a femdom way, I also try to talk about what the real life entails. That means with the period when nothing much ahppens as life gets int the way.
I read a lot of blogs and often find them the ones written by men too much with focus on their sexual gratification, – a few exceptions. The female written ones I often see starting as the written by the haillraising vixen pulled from the depths of extreme sadism and then imploding. I often wonder with those if they are not simply male fantasy story boards. Rarely they last.
I know a few exceptions to this and they should be treasured. Reality is often stranger than fiction could come up with anyway.
i do have a blog, and writing for it is by far the best frikkin’ part of my day! the URL is
MistressPriya.com
It consists of femdom and cuckolding stories of one character named Priya. Almost every day of my life I’ve thought about one girl while sleeping, when I needed advice, when I got into trouble, even when I was doing well. Feels good to have one place to organize and release all those fantasies. I use a fake name, though :p Can’t have my “i’m into vanilla sex” friends asking me whether I want to be chained and gagged and facesat upon, etc.
I’ve had a femdom blog for 1-2 years. Thankfully, I don’t have many problems with the totalitarian wankers and textspeak crowd. While my readership isn’t as wide as I’d like, I enjoy the feedback I get as well as sharing various chunks of my experiences. While I do get into my philosophies on bdsm, there’s also plenty of kinkery that I post as well.
I lack both the knowledge and time for a blog. I appreciate this blog for the respectful way it handles my questions and comments. One day I will have the knowledge and intuition to create a worthy sub blog that will be lasting and useful.
I have an FLR blog where I write about my thoughts on female domination in general and my relationship with my submissive. I’ve had it for just a few months, but intend on keeping it up. I was writing about once a month, but after the success of a recent post on the devaluation of male submission I decided to try to start posting more frequently. Hopefully I can put up quality posts about once a week.