http://femaleledrelationships.net/kink-fetish/abusive-girlfriend Female dominance, male submission without the stereotypes Tue, 31 Jan 2012 02:03:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://femaleledrelationships.net/kink-fetish/abusive-girlfriend#comment-1312 Shadowlady Wed, 07 Jul 2010 12:19:00 +0000 http://www.femaleledrelationships.net/?p=492#comment-1312 This is either a wanker fantasy, or abuse. Anybody that goes into this level of extreme play (as scatplay is IMO) without discussion and prior consent should be banned from using the term BDSM. BDSM only exists due to consent given and that to me seems lacking. Some femdom play and bondage is not akin to scatplay which is a hard limit for a lot of kinky people. Without consent BDSM can easily become abusive. Kinky people live a fine line between the two that is why you need to make damn sure that you partner is aware at all time of intentions and the dominant has the responsibility to ensure that all communications regarding the extremities of the play are understood and hard limit are always adhered to This is either a wanker fantasy, or abuse.
Anybody that goes into this level of extreme play (as scatplay is IMO) without discussion and prior consent should be banned from using the term BDSM. BDSM only exists due to consent given and that to me seems lacking. Some femdom play and bondage is not akin to scatplay which is a hard limit for a lot of kinky people.
Without consent BDSM can easily become abusive. Kinky people live a fine line between the two that is why you need to make damn sure that you partner is aware at all time of intentions and the dominant has the responsibility to ensure that all communications regarding the extremities of the play are understood and hard limit are always adhered to

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