She did this a couple more times that first week, and I was very horny, but very soft. Then, she stayed overnight and we had sex. OMG…It was the most incredible orgasm I have ever had…!!! I fucked her like I was a machine….WOW was it great! And she was very satisfied, as she was able to climax with me.

Not sure what this is called, but I would certainly do it again…Ed

A denied orgasm leaves a man extremely horny (duh) and feeling very helpless against a genuinely cruel torment. The combination will push the male into extremely deep subspace, and at this point the Dominant may choose to either maintain the submissive’s high by continuing to abuse and humiliate the male (at this point the submissive’s thoughts will be relatively disorganized and frantic and you may see some amusing behaviors), or She may decide it’s time to return the male to chastity, leaving him alone in a state of hopeless desperation.

A ruined orgasm, however has a unique effect resulting from the setup of the male sex drive. When the neurons are ready to initiate orgasm, the horniness begins to disappear, the brain readies itself for the ultimate relief of pleasure without wanting. This is part of the reason why men frequently roll over and fall asleep after having sex- they’re tired and nothing in their brain is compelling them to be pleasing to their partner. However, when that pleasure is denied, it leaves the brain in a confused, awkward state, so while the physical feeling may not have been painful, it may have even been very slightly enjoyable, the mental feeling is extremely negative. Because the submissive is humiliated but not horny, he is not in subspace and therefore not enjoying his humiliation. It is therefore essential at this point that the Dominant takes the time to irritate the sting- verbal humiliation is one of the most effective tools at this point. Succeeding in humiliating the male after a ruined orgasms deepens the power divide between Woman and man and encourage the quiet, pleasing submissive to become a larger side of the male’s personality.

P.S.- Removing stimulation is not the only way to ruin an orgasm. Ejaculation can be made less satisfying and even painful by restricting the flow of semen through various methods including tightly squeezing the head of the penis, blocking the urethra with a finger or anything else (the sole of a boot, a piece of ice), and this submissive has even heard of a Woman pushing a q-tip directly down through the penis.

P.P.S.- Sometimes when blocking the urethra a “squelcher” occurs, where semen is not completely blocked and it shoots out at high velocity in a random direction. this submissive would be mortified if any Woman were to get ejaculate on Her skin or clothing because of this submissive’s advice. However, the direction that the squelcher shoots in can be controlled, most easily when using the thumb or a finger, to either squirt to the side harmlessly or back onto the submissive for additional humiliation.

The psycological dominance of Her deciding to spoil our release perhaps after a lengthy perod without one can be very intense and fulfilling.It demonstrates Her utter control and our dependancy on Her for our pleasure.

However I must say there have been times when I have had very dissapointed and desperate feeling after weeks without coming and then She has purposefully ruined the release.There can be sobbing and winging and a terrible emptyness.But this only lasts a time.Later sometimes a fair bit later we will process the experience and feel ever more dominated and loving to Her for controlling and punishing us so.

After all I don’t like a whipping but afterwards the fact that She has demonstrated the power to do it and I have demonstrated the commitment to take it means that things are all very good and sexy.