When you imagine yourself in a female led relationship do you think of yourself as her slave?
Or her submissive male (husband, boyfriend, whatever)?
Some people attach great significance to these words, particularly because slave is thought to imply a deeper commitment, more surrender.
Originally posted 2008-03-24 15:45:06. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
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I don’t consider myself a slave. To me, “slave” implies some sort of TPE situation, and that isn’t my thing. That “more is better” mentality seems to miss the mark since it stresses quantity of submission over love.
I’m submissive, among other things. Definitely not a slave.
I agree with roo-roo – “Slave,” to me, means that I have no choice/control about where am I. Well, I probably don’t have much control about my submissive tendencies, but my commitment to my Mistress is certainly very deep and complete.
Slave as mentioned above indicates that you have no will or say in what happens to you.
Although I only role play the femdom fetish I consider myself a sub, someone who enjoys being humiliated or controlled providing my limits are respected and providing both parties are in the mood.
Yes I agree with the other comments because I think slavery implies a total lack of leadership, which is often confused with authority.
A Mistress has total authority but there are times in a relationship, such as medical emergencies, where one must take responsibility and show leadership because of the urgency of a situation or the special skills a person can use.
One can always apologies later if the behavior is inappropriate but to wait for permission in extreme or special circumstances is fraught with peril.
“Slave” implies an inequality from the get go.
Here’s how my FLR works:
“So we have edged back toward a rather elegant, understated, world in which I am the servant/lover of the very elegant lady of the house. Hannah is beautiful, nicely demanding and able to give an order without anyone, except me, knowing she has. Part of my duties is to be her maid, taking care of her clothes, making her bed; part is being her servant in the sense of serving her wine or a bit of cheese, doing laundry, wielding the vacuum; part is being her ardent, but always obedient, lover. We work these roles out as we go along.
The one certainty being that I accept and welcome Hannah’s discipline and acknowledge that I have no right to discipline or even talk back to her.” two alphas
Not for everyone, works for us.