How much control of submissive men?
I wanted to ask a question – how much do you want/need to change or transform your submissives?
For me, the transformation side of ownership is a huge thing. Looking at someone and deciding what you want them to be. In my semi-vanilla life, I used to have boyfriends pack on muscle, start wearing heaps nicer clothes and possibly changing in other ways – I just love the control.
My girl is becoming leaner, she’s got a new job and I pick her clothes and food. I like to make changes… especially making people happier (if I can).
Sometimes I don’t get all the unhealthy subs out there, and the fact that they are allowed to continue smoking, eating bad food whatever… but then not everyone likes to have that sort of control over their subs’ lives.
Interestingly I’m not usually all that fussed about “formal” manners… or more bdsm specific requirements like no undies or not sitting on furniture or whatever.
Originally posted 2010-09-03 15:29:29. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
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In essence I am not changing/transforming my boy in any way. I use what it given and make it mine. Work with the building blocks so to speak. Sure I do use them to push and nudge him further along paths that I like, but I do not want to change my boy’s persona. I fell in love with the boy as he is, not woth the boy whom he could become.
In part this is due to experience I have spent enough time early in my life to change and fit the moulds that society or relationships use for women to know that ultimately the person as is will be happiest.
To change a person is to deny what he can become.