I share Faludi’s glee — up to a point. Surely no one will ever dare argue that women lack the temperament for political combat. But by running a racially-tinged campaign, lying about her foreign policy experience, and repeatedly seeming to favor McCain over her Democratic opponent, Clinton didn’t just break through the “glass floor,” she set a new low for floors in general, and would, if she could have got within arm’s reach, have rubbed the broken glass into Obama’s face.

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Hillary Clinton smashed the myth of innate female moral superiority in the worst possible way — by demonstrating female moral inferiority. We didn’t really need her racial innuendos and free-floating bellicosity to establish that women aren’t wimps. As a generation of young feminists realizes, the values once thought to be uniquely and genetically female — such as compassion and an aversion to violence — can be found in either sex, and sometimes it’s a man who best upholds them.

Hillary’s Gift to Women

Originally posted 2008-05-13 13:45:07. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Hillary Clinton & Female Inferiority
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A submissive, by nature, is highly regarded if they can express themselves in a humble and soft fashion; however, it’s important that they get their needs met too. If their needs are to be met, they must have the ability to be assertive in communication. Many submissive’s find this task to be difficult and instead decide to be passive-agressive, agressive or passive. This is where the wise dominant steps in to guide the submissive in the right direction. If the dominant does not have the tools to assist the submissive, she will: 1. seek out and learn the knowledge with or separately from the submissive; and/or 2. forward the submissive to capable materials, persons or courses.

Being assertive includes ensuring that your rights as a human being are not being violated and abused in an unhealthy way. Now in our world, submissive’s are often violated & abused; however, in this world that I condone – it is known that consensual and healthy BDSM is what we strive for. Therefore, in the end, we do not want the spirit of the submisive to truly feel that they are not respected and have no rights as a valuable person within the relationship.

A person will exhibit a range of behaviours but will most likely settle on one that is natural or intrinsic to them. I believe this is the cause of nature; one’s upbringing that has formed the way a person communicates.

What many dominant’s are unable to see is that a submissive can be assertive, agressive, passive and passive-agressive and still have the desire and intent to be submissive. This is the oxymoron and the difficulty in relating with a submissive who is not assertive.

Please see below for definitions of assertive, agressive, passive and passive-agressive.

Definitions of Behaviour

Assertive: The root cause of assertive behaviour is confidence. An assertive person ensures that your rights are not violated or abused. They also ensure that you do not violate or abuse other’s rights. Helping other’s take their rights in order for them not to be abused or violated is also a part of being an assertive person. They exhibit behaviours of: calm and rational thought and speech; listening first and talking second when confronted with a difficult situation; standing up for themselves and others in a clear and concise way; most likely not offering excuses for their assertive actions; the ability to say no in a diplomatic way; etc.

Agressive: The root causes of agressive behaviour are: insecurity, fear or hurt feelings. It is rare that it’s out of pure frustration and hatred. Agressive people take other’s rights without consent. They won’t concern themselves if other’s are taking their rights. They might help another to take their rights but will in turn take them away as they relate with the person they were trying to help. They will pounce on the passive. They exhibit the behaviours of: yelling; intimidating speech and stance; swearing; physical & emotional violence; withdrawal of anything the other person wants; they are only able to see their view; etc..

Passive: The root cause of passive behaviour is fear. They have difficulty surviving on their own. In other words – they do not have the strength to protect their rights and hope that other’s will do so for them. They exhibit the most sensitive behaviours such as crying on a moment’s notice; feeling down on themselves; feeling unworthy; recognizeable low self esteem(all other behaviours except for “assertive” have low self esteem but it’s not readily recognizeable); etc..

Passive-agressive: The root cause of passive-agressive behaviour is fear with an uprising of aggression because no one else is protecting them and they can’t protect themselves since they do not have the behaviour of assertiveness. This is the most difficult style to relate to as the behaviours fluctuate. Bobbing from one style to another style in a moment’s notice. It’s difficult to find truth in such a person as their passive side will hide the it and their agressive side will lie to protect it. In fact this is most difficult and stressful to the passive-agressive person as they are most often not aware that they are behaving in this way. It’s their way to getting their agressive feelings out in an indirect way. Their only way of expressing themselves. There is another way though – through assertiveness. They exhibit behaviours of: lying to themselves which in turn becomes a lie to another; acting out but pretending they didn’t; not offering information; crying, then screaming; then yelling; then crying; and then saying “it’s all your fault”; withdrawal; etc.

(c) 2001 Lady Sun http://www.lady-sun.com

Originally posted 2010-11-15 08:55:38. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Assertive Submissives
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I was wondering if any of you have used CollarMe, Craigslist, Alt. Bondage and the like to find a dominant or submissive playmate or life partner.

What luck did you have?

I’m sure you have stories sad and bad – any funny ones?

Originally posted 2008-02-25 07:14:32. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Looking for Female Led Online
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Franco is a Femdom artist known for his illustrations of dominant older women spanking younger men. An email from Franco had me thinking that some of you probably find the idea of a woman taking a very firm hand and disciplining you, insuring your future good behavior.

Does this image excite you?

Are there women who wish – at times – to be this sort of strict matriarch?

Originally posted 2009-10-22 13:59:46. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Matriarchal Female / Male Spankings
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Originally posted 2007-08-10 15:15:59. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Tantric Sex
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Ok, fair enough. Do you sabotage your chances? Are you too inhibited to greet a woman? So horribly shy that you can’t even say “Hi.”?

Isn’t that a subtle form of selfishness? Isn’t it essentially demanding that she do all the social exertion? Is there some reason she should feel so inclined?

From what many dominant women write on the web they expect many of the same courtesies and amenities that vanilla women do when being courted by a man.

That means that you can’t be a wallflower and expect luck. Besides your shyness is just a form of ego protection isn’t it?

That foolish belief that it is better to have nothing than to have a woman say “No.”?

Originally posted 2008-01-22 16:15:39. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Submissive Shyness
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Some, adopting a purist stance, claim that is a man requires a MCD for orgasm control, claim that the man is not genuinely submissive. A flawed perspective.

It assumes there’s a litmus test for a quality known as true submission. That there is one way and no other way for a man to surrender to the loving female authority of his girlfriend, mistress or wife.

Many of these devices are not really inescapable. Even though he might be able to get out of it some men are probably able to practice self-denial only with the aid of a MCD because they need an extra barrier to enable them to control their erotic appetites. It is a help.

Some men treasure a MCD as a physical symbol of his surrender to the woman in his life. A binding that is always present even when he is away from her.

Baldly: there are men who need penis bondage to help them eroticize the experience. Without it the experience can become flat, dull: boring and lose all value. And they enjoy the reward / punishment games that determine when the MCD will be removed.

Wearing a male chastity device is not sign of failure or insincerity. Rejecting the psychology of the individual man is foolish at best.

Originally posted 2008-05-01 15:12:29. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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The Great MCD Debate
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Boosting the thrill of sexual experiences is probably the most common motivation for forcing a man to endure. Postponing sex results in a more passionate, intense experience when the period of denial ends.

For the woman to tease the male enhances the intensity.

Originally posted 2010-12-24 06:51:05. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Male Chastity : Erotic Play
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Yahoo Answers gets asked the least expected questions:

Would Sarah Palin make a good dominatrix? ?

Female Superiority?

First answer:

Dude, I was thinking the same thing…I’d like her to dominate me lol!

Dept. of Stereotypes:

I totally think so. She reminds me of a librarian and I think they are all secret dominatrix. Also wouldn’t she look hot in a tight leather outfit and a whip in her hand. Also she should wear her glasses with the leather.

Usually, stuck up, dominant, naturally bitchy women do not make good dominatrices. A good dominatrix only pretends to be a *****.

Regardless what one may think of the woman, she doubtlessly fills the fantasies of many masochistic men. Perhaps offering even more thrills to the liberal males.

Originally posted 2010-07-01 17:41:31. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Sarah Palin: A Good Dominatrix?
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Originally posted 2009-01-12 08:55:52. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Bondage
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