Originally posted 2008-04-30 12:12:25. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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To a sad, almost frightening degree profiles and personals by submissive men are shorter – sometimes almost blank, less coherent and thoughtful than female tops.

Within the context of this note accept the premise and explain why men who claim their desire is but to please seem so often unable to communicate with the women they claim they want to serve and worship.

Originally posted 2007-12-31 13:40:58. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Why Do Men Write Such Bad Personal Ads?
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This is the female supremacist fantasy carried to its nuttiest extreme:

We believe that wars, severe natural disasters, famine plagues, and the general suffering of innocents can be avoided by appeasing the Darkside Goddess by our rituals of male atonement for the sins of all mankind.

To end earthquakes, typhoons and presumably poverty and roadside litter men must be made to “to endure hardship, torment and abasement.”

Interpretations of the Kali myth apt to startle the most inventive Hindu theologian.

Originally posted 2009-04-18 04:57:26. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Evolutionary forces gave women a preference for strong men. At least strong in mind and heart.

And it is a strong man who is valued most when he kneels.

Don’t think submission makes weakness appealing. Turning yourself into a weakness may cause her to really despise: it won’t just be play.

That is another way you can lose her.

Originally posted 2007-12-20 13:03:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Be Strong
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One of her pages grapples with the eternal question how does a man meet a dominant woman.

Be observant, respectful and empathetic is the short answer. But this is an age where people devour self-help books hoping they’ll prove repair manuals for their lives.

That dominant women aren’t automata of torment can probably never be stressed too often to the neophyte. They have headaches, illnesses, all those ills that flesh is infamously heir to.

Chances are they are interested in many things. Maybe music, art, literature history, sports – name a human endeavor; I’m sure there’s a Domina out there for whom it is a passion. Maybe mountain climbing. When emailing or chatting with her give her an inkling of your own enthusiasms. If it doesn’t exceed watching television suspend this activity while you get a life.

Doms have interests beyond bdsm. Find out what they are and approach in kind. Be honest, they will find out if you are dissembling and you are ultimately only cheating yourself. Give her some idea of what benefits she may receive from associating with you. Also it is more important that the two of you will be compatible in other ways besides the sexual if you are looking for a long term relationship …

(Bonus tip: don’t be afraid to let her know you have a sense of humor. Who wants a dour slave?)

She is – well – a she: not an it. Neither are you (OK, except some times but you aren’t there yet).

Go take a cold shower and ask yourself what you want of your time with her that isn’t spent in BDSM scenes? There’s no generic answer: it is contingent on the two people involved. But you need to have a clear understanding that it isn’t all about play or even a D/s lifestyle. There are exceptions. Maybe all you need are scenes at play parties. If you can comport yourself in those venues you don’t need to be reading this. Or you can pay a ProDomme for the realization of your fantasies.

A major fault of supplicants who have approached me, is that they were living so completely in their fantasy worlds that they are not aware of a dominant as a person who exists separately from that entity in their mind, the fictional domina.

There are slaves, submissive men and bottoms. And those of us who are a mix of those imperfect labels.

Take time to reflect on what you really need and want and can offer. And as I can testify as you begin to explore BDSM in reality your self-understanding and your sexuality it self may evolve or at least change.

Another difficulty has been those who have subsequently found out that their sexual orientation was different to what they believed. … More commonly, men who define themselves as submissives (or slaves) are actually bottoms. They want kinky sex, but do not want the power exchange element of the lifestyle relationship.

The quotes are taken from Marquise’s Meeting A Dominant Woman

Her entire site is recommended.

There are even photo archives. Though the popups didn’t work in my copy of Firefox. Pity since some of them looked like they were of a rare and special quality rarely seen in F/m imagery: witty.

Originally posted 2010-12-30 15:35:27. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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How to Meet a Female Top
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Laura Goodwin is a stellar example:

Now I’ll tell you what gynosupremacists aren’t: we aren’t sexists. All men and women are equal under the Goddess. SHE is the Mother of us all, and loves us all equally. In my religion, each person is divinely authorized to be an agent for the Goddess or God. We assert that the body, the world, and life itself is sacred, deserving respect and preservation, and yes, I do want to see those values reflected in my daily life.

Gynosupremacy

For her gynosupremacy is a means of seeking balance in dealing with the legacies of millennia of patriarchy. And I suspect she finds it a beautiful metaphor.

On the web the bulk of hard-line gynosupremacists are mostly professional dominatrices. And the online and telephone sex workers seeking monetary tribute fill the fattest slice of that.

For them female supremacy is a form of patter: the better to milk men of their money. While the majority of PSOs are honorable some are ruthless in taking advantage of lonely submissive men.

Originally posted 2008-11-14 15:46:38. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Laura Goodwin
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I share Faludi’s glee — up to a point. Surely no one will ever dare argue that women lack the temperament for political combat. But by running a racially-tinged campaign, lying about her foreign policy experience, and repeatedly seeming to favor McCain over her Democratic opponent, Clinton didn’t just break through the “glass floor,” she set a new low for floors in general, and would, if she could have got within arm’s reach, have rubbed the broken glass into Obama’s face.

…

Hillary Clinton smashed the myth of innate female moral superiority in the worst possible way — by demonstrating female moral inferiority. We didn’t really need her racial innuendos and free-floating bellicosity to establish that women aren’t wimps. As a generation of young feminists realizes, the values once thought to be uniquely and genetically female — such as compassion and an aversion to violence — can be found in either sex, and sometimes it’s a man who best upholds them.

Hillary’s Gift to Women

Originally posted 2008-05-13 13:45:07. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Hillary Clinton & Female Inferiority
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A submissive, by nature, is highly regarded if they can express themselves in a humble and soft fashion; however, it’s important that they get their needs met too. If their needs are to be met, they must have the ability to be assertive in communication. Many submissive’s find this task to be difficult and instead decide to be passive-agressive, agressive or passive. This is where the wise dominant steps in to guide the submissive in the right direction. If the dominant does not have the tools to assist the submissive, she will: 1. seek out and learn the knowledge with or separately from the submissive; and/or 2. forward the submissive to capable materials, persons or courses.

Being assertive includes ensuring that your rights as a human being are not being violated and abused in an unhealthy way. Now in our world, submissive’s are often violated & abused; however, in this world that I condone – it is known that consensual and healthy BDSM is what we strive for. Therefore, in the end, we do not want the spirit of the submisive to truly feel that they are not respected and have no rights as a valuable person within the relationship.

A person will exhibit a range of behaviours but will most likely settle on one that is natural or intrinsic to them. I believe this is the cause of nature; one’s upbringing that has formed the way a person communicates.

What many dominant’s are unable to see is that a submissive can be assertive, agressive, passive and passive-agressive and still have the desire and intent to be submissive. This is the oxymoron and the difficulty in relating with a submissive who is not assertive.

Please see below for definitions of assertive, agressive, passive and passive-agressive.

Definitions of Behaviour

Assertive: The root cause of assertive behaviour is confidence. An assertive person ensures that your rights are not violated or abused. They also ensure that you do not violate or abuse other’s rights. Helping other’s take their rights in order for them not to be abused or violated is also a part of being an assertive person. They exhibit behaviours of: calm and rational thought and speech; listening first and talking second when confronted with a difficult situation; standing up for themselves and others in a clear and concise way; most likely not offering excuses for their assertive actions; the ability to say no in a diplomatic way; etc.

Agressive: The root causes of agressive behaviour are: insecurity, fear or hurt feelings. It is rare that it’s out of pure frustration and hatred. Agressive people take other’s rights without consent. They won’t concern themselves if other’s are taking their rights. They might help another to take their rights but will in turn take them away as they relate with the person they were trying to help. They will pounce on the passive. They exhibit the behaviours of: yelling; intimidating speech and stance; swearing; physical & emotional violence; withdrawal of anything the other person wants; they are only able to see their view; etc..

Passive: The root cause of passive behaviour is fear. They have difficulty surviving on their own. In other words – they do not have the strength to protect their rights and hope that other’s will do so for them. They exhibit the most sensitive behaviours such as crying on a moment’s notice; feeling down on themselves; feeling unworthy; recognizeable low self esteem(all other behaviours except for “assertive” have low self esteem but it’s not readily recognizeable); etc..

Passive-agressive: The root cause of passive-agressive behaviour is fear with an uprising of aggression because no one else is protecting them and they can’t protect themselves since they do not have the behaviour of assertiveness. This is the most difficult style to relate to as the behaviours fluctuate. Bobbing from one style to another style in a moment’s notice. It’s difficult to find truth in such a person as their passive side will hide the it and their agressive side will lie to protect it. In fact this is most difficult and stressful to the passive-agressive person as they are most often not aware that they are behaving in this way. It’s their way to getting their agressive feelings out in an indirect way. Their only way of expressing themselves. There is another way though – through assertiveness. They exhibit behaviours of: lying to themselves which in turn becomes a lie to another; acting out but pretending they didn’t; not offering information; crying, then screaming; then yelling; then crying; and then saying “it’s all your fault”; withdrawal; etc.

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Originally posted 2010-11-15 08:55:38. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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I was wondering if any of you have used CollarMe, Craigslist, Alt. Bondage and the like to find a dominant or submissive playmate or life partner.

What luck did you have?

I’m sure you have stories sad and bad – any funny ones?

Originally posted 2008-02-25 07:14:32. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Franco is a Femdom artist known for his illustrations of dominant older women spanking younger men. An email from Franco had me thinking that some of you probably find the idea of a woman taking a very firm hand and disciplining you, insuring your future good behavior.

Does this image excite you?

Are there women who wish – at times – to be this sort of strict matriarch?

Originally posted 2009-10-22 13:59:46. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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Matriarchal Female / Male Spankings
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