Comments on: How Much Control? http://femaleledrelationships.net/dominant-women/how-much-control Femdom Psychology, Philosophy, Female Domination, Male Submission Theory & Practice Thu, 17 May 2012 03:07:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Shadowlady http://femaleledrelationships.net/dominant-women/how-much-control#comment-1041 Shadowlady Sun, 07 Mar 2010 09:01:17 +0000 http://www.femaleledrelationships.net/?p=196#comment-1041 In my relationship it is very much a case of desire, not requirement. He was single for years and had a nice home and life without me. He can do well without the control, but it is something he desires very much. The control factor is there but not obvious to others most of the time. Still people do realise he dotes on me and puts me on a pedestal. Part of that is control, part of that is simply love. Control flows through our life, but due to life changes and things happening in our lives it will change, and has it's ups and downs. I do not treat/control him like a child or a brat. Simply because he isn't one. He's an adult and I expect him to be one, I treat him as one. If I wanted to control a child I should have gotten me one. In my relationship it is very much a case of desire, not requirement. He was single for years and had a nice home and life without me. He can do well without the control, but it is something he desires very much.
The control factor is there but not obvious to others most of the time. Still people do realise he dotes on me and puts me on a pedestal. Part of that is control, part of that is simply love. Control flows through our life, but due to life changes and things happening in our lives it will change, and has it’s ups and downs.
I do not treat/control him like a child or a brat. Simply because he isn’t one. He’s an adult and I expect him to be one, I treat him as one. If I wanted to control a child I should have gotten me one.

]]> By: dave http://femaleledrelationships.net/dominant-women/how-much-control#comment-1040 dave Fri, 05 Mar 2010 15:20:54 +0000 http://www.femaleledrelationships.net/?p=196#comment-1040 My Wife Nancy is the head of our household. We both came from situations of Female dominance and male submissiveness so it was a natural thing for us. While we have set responsibilities, our relationship is constantly evolving. Nancy wants more control and i like for Her to have it, so we have new rules, responsibilities, and courtesies all the time. In general, Nancy manages the finances, makes all decisions, and determines our social schedule. She makes rules and assigns tasks and administers corrections when things don't happen as they should. As for me, i have a routine of housework that includes cooking, cleaning, washing, and ironing as well as taking care of the 'guy' things around the house. For example both Nancy and Her Mother, Sue, expect their cars to be cleaned, serviced, and fueled. The Women expect visible deference and to be treated with courtesy - it's yes, Ma-am! or No Ma-ma! and their needs and comfort are always my first concern. It may sound a bit heavy handed but it isn't; it's the end result of years of stating and understanding expectations and evolving clear rules as they are needed. i know what is expected of me and have the harmony at home that i want when i meet my expectations. Women do men a BIG favor when they provide a structured environment for the man in their lives... If anyone would care to communicate with us in these matters we can be reached on nlf21mail@yahoo.com Nancy, Sue, dave My Wife Nancy is the head of our household. We both came from situations of Female dominance and male submissiveness so it was a natural thing for us. While we have set responsibilities, our relationship is constantly evolving. Nancy wants more control and i like for Her to have it, so we have new rules, responsibilities, and courtesies all the time. In general, Nancy manages the finances, makes all decisions, and determines our social schedule. She makes rules and assigns tasks and administers corrections when things don’t happen as they should. As for me, i have a routine of housework that includes cooking, cleaning, washing, and ironing as well as taking care of the ‘guy’ things around the house. For example both Nancy and Her Mother, Sue, expect their cars to be cleaned, serviced, and fueled. The Women expect visible deference and to be treated with courtesy – it’s yes, Ma-am! or No Ma-ma! and their needs and comfort are always my first concern. It may sound a bit heavy handed but it isn’t; it’s the end result of years of stating and understanding expectations and evolving clear rules as they are needed. i know what is expected of me and have the harmony at home that i want when i meet my expectations. Women do men a BIG favor when they provide a structured environment for the man in their lives… If anyone would care to communicate with us in these matters we can be reached on nlf21mail@yahoo.com

Nancy, Sue, dave

]]> By: cuckold0303 http://femaleledrelationships.net/dominant-women/how-much-control#comment-1039 cuckold0303 Sat, 01 Aug 2009 19:12:05 +0000 http://www.femaleledrelationships.net/?p=196#comment-1039 Next to the fact I'm chastity and cuckolded we do have a Female Led Household. This doesn't mean the husband doesn't do anything. The fact is however, that my wife has the last say in everything. Let's give some examples: Finances: My wife doens't like to do our finances. I'm perfectly caple of running our finances, run our investments, keep a handle on our expenses and so on. But any major deviation from the ordenary I have to explain to my wife and ask her permission. On top of that I make her a monthly overview on our situation and run her through that in 15 to 30 minutes. She can ask whatever she wants and if I don't know the answer I'll look it up for her. Raising the kids: We have an agreement on how to raise the kids. She takes all decision. If I object to anything material in raising kids I have every Friday evening between 9pm and 10pm to raise any issues with her decisions. At that time I can discuss any decision she made and make my arguments why I believe this should have been different. The final decision is always hers but most of the time we come to an agreement during the discussion. We also agreed that I can take decisions too when she is not arround but I have the duty to report that as soon as possible. Purchases: Within our relationship I can request purchases for myself as well. However, I always have to ask permission and explain to her why I need it, she doesn't have that obligation to me but here we have the Friday evening again if I would object any of the purchases she made. I'm a gadget man and I wanted an iPhone recently. I explained what the device could do and how cool it was. My wife agreed it was indeed a cool device and we ended up buying one for her and not for me as she believed it was not neccesary for me. Food In our relationship I'm responsible for our meals. Also in this case it's all in the preparation. Every week I present my wife a weekplan for our meals. She can make adjustments (which she does once in a while) and then I'll do the grocery shopping and the cooking. Household I'm responsible for the household. Together we made a cleaning plan and that involves everybody in the household, so also my daughter and wife and my son. My son and I do all the heavy lifting and my wife and my daugther do all lighter shores. We always spend 2 hours on Saturday morning and during the week I do the extra's (bathroom and so on). Dates My wife cuckold me but let me do the searching for nice men. I knows she like younger cute guys so I made her a profile on AFF.com and handle all response (which is huge). Based on her selection criteria I make a short-list of 3 to 5 guys and she takes it from there. As you can see; everything is Female Led but I'm not neglected when it comes to things like finances, raising kids and the household. In my professional life I'm an executive in a multi-billion international company and at home I'm recognized for that. But at home my wife is the CEO, and I'm the VP of Finance and operations. Regards! Next to the fact I’m chastity and cuckolded we do have a Female Led Household. This doesn’t mean the husband doesn’t do anything. The fact is however, that my wife has the last say in everything. Let’s give some examples:

Finances:
My wife doens’t like to do our finances. I’m perfectly caple of running our finances, run our investments, keep a handle on our expenses and so on. But any major deviation from the ordenary I have to explain to my wife and ask her permission. On top of that I make her a monthly overview on our situation and run her through that in 15 to 30 minutes. She can ask whatever she wants and if I don’t know the answer I’ll look it up for her.

Raising the kids:
We have an agreement on how to raise the kids. She takes all decision. If I object to anything material in raising kids I have every Friday evening between 9pm and 10pm to raise any issues with her decisions. At that time I can discuss any decision she made and make my arguments why I believe this should have been different. The final decision is always hers but most of the time we come to an agreement during the discussion. We also agreed that I can take decisions too when she is not arround but I have the duty to report that as soon as possible.

Purchases:
Within our relationship I can request purchases for myself as well. However, I always have to ask permission and explain to her why I need it, she doesn’t have that obligation to me but here we have the Friday evening again if I would object any of the purchases she made. I’m a gadget man and I wanted an iPhone recently. I explained what the device could do and how cool it was. My wife agreed it was indeed a cool device and we ended up buying one for her and not for me as she believed it was not neccesary for me.

Food
In our relationship I’m responsible for our meals. Also in this case it’s all in the preparation. Every week I present my wife a weekplan for our meals. She can make adjustments (which she does once in a while) and then I’ll do the grocery shopping and the cooking.

Household
I’m responsible for the household. Together we made a cleaning plan and that involves everybody in the household, so also my daughter and wife and my son. My son and I do all the heavy lifting and my wife and my daugther do all lighter shores. We always spend 2 hours on Saturday morning and during the week I do the extra’s (bathroom and so on).

Dates
My wife cuckold me but let me do the searching for nice men. I knows she like younger cute guys so I made her a profile on AFF.com and handle all response (which is huge). Based on her selection criteria I make a short-list of 3 to 5 guys and she takes it from there.

As you can see; everything is Female Led but I’m not neglected when it comes to things like finances, raising kids and the household. In my professional life I’m an executive in a multi-billion international company and at home I’m recognized for that. But at home my wife is the CEO, and I’m the VP of Finance and operations.

Regards!

]]> By: Dev http://femaleledrelationships.net/dominant-women/how-much-control#comment-1038 Dev Tue, 13 Jan 2009 23:01:36 +0000 http://www.femaleledrelationships.net/?p=196#comment-1038 There are (at least) two reasons a person might need someone to run his life - that he's not very competent, or that he's, as you say, a "brat." My submissive partner is 9 years younger than me, and just graduated from college. There are things I know that he doesn't know and occasionally a life skill he hasn't picked up yet. However, if he weren't dating me, he would do just fine at running his own life and would learn the things he needs to know in the way people typically do. He doesn't have a general competence deficit. He is also not a brat at all. You can really only be considered a "brat" if someone has authority over you anyway (a dom once told me he didn't think I seemed like I would be a brat and I was offended because we didn't have a dom/sub relationship). I do have authority over Jos, but he really never displays anything like bratty behavior. It doesn't seem to be what works between us. There are (at least) two reasons a person might need someone to run his life – that he’s not very competent, or that he’s, as you say, a “brat.”

My submissive partner is 9 years younger than me, and just graduated from college. There are things I know that he doesn’t know and occasionally a life skill he hasn’t picked up yet. However, if he weren’t dating me, he would do just fine at running his own life and would learn the things he needs to know in the way people typically do. He doesn’t have a general competence deficit.

He is also not a brat at all. You can really only be considered a “brat” if someone has authority over you anyway (a dom once told me he didn’t think I seemed like I would be a brat and I was offended because we didn’t have a dom/sub relationship). I do have authority over Jos, but he really never displays anything like bratty behavior. It doesn’t seem to be what works between us.

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