Female Tops and Personal Ads
I don’t look at profiles written by dominant women very often. But a CollarMe.com profile that I read recently struck me.
A nearby woman’s personal started interestingly: she wrote about herself. But for only a paragraph. The subsequent paragraphs enumerated what qualities she didn’t want in a potential submissive male playmate. Nothing else.
It hit me that the profiles I’d seen by Research Triangle Park dominant women were almost exclusively summaries of qualities they deplored in submissive guys. That is of course sad but probably works against their goal of meeting a man they would enjoy have submit to them.
From what female top friends have told me nothing – absolutely nothing – stops wannabe, do me faux submissive males from responding to profiles. The blinding frustration and self-centeredness that makes the men undesirable also insures they’ll write to every dominant woman in town.
The efforts to forestall these guys fail.
And in not mentioning the qualities that make you a distinctive, individual and interesting woman make it less likely you’ll hear from a man that might meet your needs and desires.
F/s couples often initially bond over a shared taste: author, musician, common hobby.
Female tops probably do themselves a disservice if they rely on mere statistical advantage.
Elsewhere:
I’ve tried some advice to submissive guys on Femdom Dating (You don’t need to pay for a F/m dating ebook.)
Most of my comments on BDSM profiles and personal ads appear on BDSM Romance.
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