Wannabe Cuckold’s Unhappy Wife
I’m skeptical of many tales of cuckoldry that appear online. I know people who practice cuckoldry happily and successfully. But I think most of what men post on the web is fiction masquerading as fact.
Cuckoldry is one of the very few fetishes that I think most people shouldn’t try to actualize. As tantalizing as the fantasy may be for you the consequences could destroy your romantic relationship.
This was left a comment on Femdom Romance:
My husband is into Cuckold and I’m not, though I’ve been pretending that I have been for the last 6 years, we’ve been together 8 years. I make up stories and he believes them, well he did until a pic that I faked was awful quality and he realised I got it from the net. Anyway now he says the next time has to be real and I can’t do it! How can I tell him? I’ve kept this secret so long and it’s going to crush him.
What a kind woman. What a selfish husband.
Distinctions between men who are submissive and those who are mostly or only fetishists are usually made without sufficient subtlety. Despite the common rhetoric, being cuckolded isn’t submission so much as a humiliation fetish. It is asking for emotional pain. Having my own share of emotional masochism I don’t despise this.
Wanting so badly to be hurt in a special way this man is willing to hurt a woman who loves him. The failing isn’t one particularly pertaining to female led relationships. But simply human decency.
She shouldn’t feel guilty. If he can’t curb his desires it is hard to see that she should do anything except leave him.
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Yes he is a selfish man, but she is not innocent either. For a long time she indulged his fantasy effectively by lying. The man probably does not even realise how selfish he is, nor how much he is topping from the bottom and directing the relationship. Why would he? It has been this way for 6 years and she never corrected it, or communicated reality to him. She is pleasing him instead of the other way around. Essentially that indicates that communication int his marriage is not honest and not open.
Clearly there is going to be a level of heartbreak involved to mend this.
If she feels she cannot and will not do it she has to come clean, totally clean. He will be devastated. Possibly more by the lying than the loss of fetish. In a case like this role/fantasy playing could have been a decent middle ground, but that option is probably lost now.
If she feels his fantasy and fetish are too important then she has to play along and maybe deny her own wishes. But she would need to realise regardless that he is leading the relationship, not her.
The choice is hers and it will take soul searching. I know what my choice would be, but it may not be hers.