Female dominance, male submission without the stereotypes
Strict Female Authority
Franco is a Femdom artist known for his illustrations of dominant older women spanking younger men. An email from Franco had me thinking that some of you probably find the idea of a woman taking a very firm hand and disciplining you, insuring your future good behavior.
Does this image excite you?
Are there women who wish – at times – to be this sort of strict matriarch?
Originally posted 2009-10-22 13:59:46. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
The Asian provenance is relevant only in that it might it unlikely that you might see it elsewhere. For those of you who enjoy seeing a bound and helpless guy.
Originally posted 2009-01-12 08:55:52. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Is a Bitch Goddess what you really want?
Some woman who will make you bleed and scream?
Leave you whimpering and begging?
Crushes you under foot and laughs at you?
And do you stop thinking like this after you’ve masturbated?
Originally posted 2008-03-15 04:57:05. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
F/m as Lifestyle or Play Style
Guys:
Do you want a woman to totally subjugate you (ala Elise Sutton) or simply a bedroom dominatrix (Dominant Divas)?
Gals:*
Do you want to regulate a man’s life or limit things to tease and denial and other kinky fun?
Or is there some mysterious middle ground?
( * My first and probably last use of that word.)
Originally posted 2008-03-04 12:38:17. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Male Slave Conduct Contract Regulations*
By Mistress Thionite
[1]Male Slaves are considered as the lowest form of life on this planet. Every
other living thing has a higher rank than that of Male Slave. A Male Slave’s Mistress
may use his Male Slave for any purpose, including, but not limited to, household
duties, sexual gratification, and being loaned out to others for the
exchange of money. There are two types of Male Slaves, Full-Time Male Slaves, and
SessionMale Slaves. Some rules differ for each type, and are described as such
when necessary. When no distinction between Male Slave types is given, the Rule
applies to both types. Full-Time Male Slaves are exactly as the title suggests,
full time. These types are used in household duties, and are under
constant supervision by a Mistress. Session Male Slaves are those who only
occasionally enjoy the sexual aspect of the Mistress/Male Slave life.
[2] Absolute obedience of each of these 35 rules is required. Failure to
comply with any of these rules will result in 25 lashes with the cat-o-nine
tails, belt or cane, for each offense.
[3] Male Slave is not permitted to use pronouns that refer to it as a person.
Only “Male Slave”, and “it”, or something else that shows no personal identity.
[4] Male Slave will not speak unless spoken to by Mistress or any of Mistress’s
associates, except in case of an emergency such as fire, drowning, or other
such event that would require instant help.
[5] Full-Time Male Slave is responsible for keeping its body devoid of hair,
except eyebrows and on the top of its head, either by shaving, waxing or
hair-removal gels/lotions. This will be done with complete supervision by
Mistress. Session Male Slave may be required to arrive at its appointment
completely hairless. This is at the discretion of Mistress.
[6] Full-Time Male Slave is to be naked at all times. Session Male Slave is to be
naked when it arrives for its appointment. The appointment is considered
to have started and/or ended the moment Male Slave steps over Mistress’s
threshold.
[7] Full-Time Male Slave is forbidden to touch its genitals, or ass, except in
accordance of Rules 5, 13 & 14. Session Male Slave is forbidden from touching
its genitals at any time during an appointment.
[8] Immediately upon agreement of becoming Full-Time Male Slave, it agrees to
surrender its payment for the privilege of becoming Mistress’s Male Slave, in the
form of all liquidated bank assets. Male Slave must also forfeit any previous
employment. Male Slave’s immediate family must be notified of Male Slave’s free will
to go into servitude. In return, Mistress agrees to keep in touch with
Male Slave’s family, in the event of family sickness or death. Session Male Slave is
required to surrender its payment for the privilege of becoming Mistress’s
Male Slave at the rate of $50 per hour. Appointments generally do not last more
than one day, unless previously agreed upon by both parties.
[9] Full-Time Male Slave is not permitted to leave Mistress’s residence, for any
reason except for emergency purposes.
[10] Male Slave is not permitted to use any seating other than the floor.
[11] Male Slave is not permitted to use any appliances, electronic devices or
other household items, unless otherwise ordered. These items include, but
are not limited to, stove, refrigerator, microwave, washer/dryer,
television, cell phone, radio, computer, etc.
[12] Male Slave has no privacy.
[13] Full-Time Male Slave will give itself a daily enema while under its
Mistress’s supervision. This will serve as Male Slave’s allotted daily
defecation. Session Male Slave is required to arrive at its appointment,
completely cleaned out.
[14] Full-Time Male Slave is granted permission to relieve its bladder three
times daily, at 8 am, 4 pm and Midnight, provided Mistress is awake. If
Mistress is not awake, or Male Slave is not being used as described in Rule 15, no
bathroom relief shall be granted. Session Male Slave will not be permitted to
relieve any bodily functions during an appointment.
[15] When Full-Time Male Slave is in use, Male Slave must remain within 3 feet of its
Mistress’s side, at all times. “In Use” is considered to be anytime Mistress
is home and awake. Session Male Slave must remain in sight at all times.
[16] When not in use, Full-Time Male Slave will reside in its cage, where its
arms and legs will be shackled, and tethered by its balls with a rope or
chain.
[17] Full-Time Male Slave will be displayed as such when Mistress receives guests.
No effort shall be made by Male Slave to cover up or hide its lowly status from
others. Male Slave is required to undertake all hostess duties, and provide
enough food to satisfy two servings, per person, per each dish made. Male Slave
will also provide all refreshments, and offer its mouth as an ashtray for
those guests who smoke.
[18] Male Slave shall regularly be tested for Obedience, to ensure proper
compliance.
[19] All orders given to Male Slave must be obeyed immediately, without
question, and without hesitation.
[20] Male Slave shall assume any position when commanded. Positions are as
follows: (A) “Inspect”- Male Slave will stand, legs spread apart to its
shoulder-width, hands clasped tightly behind its head. (B) “Present”-
Male Slave will stand, legs together, hands clasped tightly behind its back.
(C) “Kneel”- Male Slave will drop to floor on its knees, legs spread apart to
its shoulder-width, hands clasped tightly behind its head. (D) “Lay”-
Male Slave will drop to its stomach, legs spread as wide apart as possible,
hands clasped tightly behind its head, elbows touching the ground. (E)
“Wall”- Male Slave will stand against nearest wall, hands clasped tightly behind
its head, and arch its body out as far as possible so that only its elbows
and heels are touching anything solid. (F) “Relax”- Male Slave will drop
facedown to the floor, then raise itself off the floor and arch its back as
high as possible, with only fingertips [not entire hands!] and tips of toes
touching the floor.
[21] When Male Slave is not being commanded, it will sit on the floor, hands
wrapped around Mistress’s ankles.
[22] Full-Time Male Slave will be locked into a chastity device at all times,
and permitted to cum only as Mistress sees fit. SessionMale Slaves may or may
not be kept in a chastity device, dependent upon Mistress’s desire. Male Slave
will be frequently edged toward cumming, but not be permitted to do so.
If, during an edging session Male Slave “accidentally” cums without permission,
it will receive an additional 10 lashes.
[23] Male Slave is required to have a butt plug in its anal cavity at all times.
[24] If Male Slave must relieve any bodily functions other than allotted times,
it must ask permission. If permission is asked, Male Slave will be punished for
breaking Rule 4 and receive an additional 25 lashes. Permission may or may
not be granted, dependent upon present activities and/or Mistress’s mood.
[25] When there is more than one Full-Time Male Slave in residence,Male Slaves are
not permitted to speak to each other in accordance with Rule 4. There are
video and audio surveillance devices located throughout Mistress’s home,
which are in use 24/7. If Male Slave is discovered to disobey this rule, an
additional 50 lashes will be served as punishment to all parties involved.
[26] Male Slave understands that it will be subjected to any and all sorts of
varying things, including, but not limited to, urination, pain, and
bondage.
[27] Male Slave will immediately apologize, and request forgiveness of any
wrongdoing.
[28] When Male Slave is answering a question or commandment, Male Slave must reply in
as few words as possible. Male Slave will always end each sentence with either
“Sir”, “Mistress”, or “Mistress [insert name here]“.
[29] Full-Time Male Slave will be fed twice each day, 7 am and 7 p.m. Meals
will consist of whatever Mistress deems appropriate. Session Male Slave will be
fed if an appointment lasts longer than 9 hours. Male Slave can refuse any
meal; however, each refusal of a meal is punishable by 25 additional
lashings. Full-Time Male Slave will also receive a 36-hour fast of any food or
drink.
[30] In the case of sickness or death of anyone in Full-Time Male Slave’s
immediate family, Male Slave will be notified immediately and granted a
temporary Bereavement Leave of all household duties and allowed to join its
family, with Mistress’s supervision. Rules 3 – 5, 7, 10 – 14, 19 – 24, 27 -
29, 31 & 34 will still apply. In addition, no effort will be made by Male Slave
to cover up or hide its lowly status from others. In addition, Male Slave’s
safeword will not apply to this situation, nor will it get Male Slave out of any
service during Bereavement Leave. Male Slave must always remain within sight of
Mistress. There are no exceptions. Any and all punishments earned during
Bereavement Leave will be given immediately upon return to full service.
All “off-duty” time accumulated by Male Slave during its reprieve will be added
on at the end of its service, and tripled.
[31] No refunds for Male Slave servitude will be given, for any reason,
whatsoever.
[32] Full-Time Male Slave agrees to a minimum mandatory 90-day contract, as a
trial period for both itself and Mistress. If during that time Male Slave does
not wish to continue service, or if Male Slave’s service is deemed
unsatisfactory by Mistress within that time, servitude will end on the 91st
day. If Mistress agrees to keep Male Slave longer, a new contract of no less than
six months will be signed and agreed upon. Each subsequent contract
renewal will carry an additional three months. For example, if Male Slave
passes the 90-day trial period, and the following six-month contract, the
following contract would be for nine months, the next would be twelve
months, and so on.
[33] Upon agreement of becoming Male Slave, it must commit to memory a safeword
of Mistress’s choosing. The safeword will release Male Slave from any situation
where it feels it is being used too roughly. If the safeword is used,
Male Slave understands that it will be punished for attempting to defy its
Mistress, and agrees to submit to a future punishment of Mistress’s choosing.
[34] Male Slave must endure any and all punishments without speaking, swearing
or other vocal statements. Sobbing, wailing, shrieking, etc., are
permitted, as long as no words are uttered. If any words are uttered
during punishment, an additional five lashes will be administered, per
offense.
[35] Male Slave is required to memorize each of these 35 Rules, verbatim, and
must be able to correctly state any and all Rules at any given time, under
any and all circumstances. Ten punishment lashes will be given for each
word missed or incorrectly added by Male Slave during recitation.
( * NB: I know some of you think this is the way to live in real life. But the words above are for fantasies. None of you could actually handle living like this.)
Post Orgasmic Cruelty
This was left as a comment on – Ruined Orgasm – a post on one of my old blogs.
Many years ago when we were courting my wife decided to build up my
orgasm then as I shot she squeezed the tip of my glan to stop the spunk
form shooting out. I felt my spunk build up and build up as she
masterbated my shaft then shoot to immediately start a frantic pulsing
which went on and on for some time subsiding to leave a dull pain in my
groin.She said that was great I could feel your spunk pumping to get out but
I decide when it can come out now so you better get use to it. After we
married this became her fetish, Being a nurse she thought up all sorts
of ways to ruine my orgasm as painfully as possible.
She continued to masturbate him – stroke his penis – after he ejaculated until it caused him pain.
This was the first kind of ruined orgasm that I ever heard of. Hearing about limiting an orgasm in such a way as to leave it sexually unfulfilling was much later.
If anyone has any experiences of diminished male orgasms it would be interesting to hear of them.
You might want to look at my summary or orgasm ruination and milking kRuined Orgasms Theory & Practice
People sometimes leave comments on blogs that purport to be true accounts but are really just fantasies.
Not long ago one man was repeatedly leaving variants of the same submissive daydream.
The poor fellow claimed to be not only enslaved by his wife but his daughters as well.
I hope I’m a tolerant man. But the desire to have your daughter make you kiss her shoes and whip you with a belt strikes me as morbid. Especially when the person seems as desperate as this man. It is a rare instance of a submissive male fantasy that makes me feel the person needs counseling.
Do you think that I’m being unfair?
Originally posted 2007-12-17 13:52:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
A man reports that his girlfriend doesn’t understand the importance of consent:
Okay i’ve been in this relationship for 3 months now and something is bothering me
yesterday my girlfriend asked me if we could do some femdom/bondage role play. I reluctantly agreed. Next thing i know, i was strapped down to the bed, with rope around the holsters. She was smiling at me and then she did it. He pulled up her skirt and pooped in my mouth. I was in shock when it was happening. She asked me to try to swallow it then after 2-5 minutes she got her foot and shoved it down my mouth while I was still chewing. Tell me what you thing because she is a great girl, kind *cept during sex) and generally loving.
Sure, this might be your fantasy. (Actually it might be his, you never know what is real.) But even submissive guys have a right to risk aware consensual kink (RACK).
Should I break up with this girl after femdom roleplay?
Originally posted 2010-07-05 12:19:11. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
By Herbootlicker
One approach could be to form a name as a pun: if the sub’s name is Doug, then his pet name is “dog” or if his name is Warren,” he becomes “worm.”
If Mistress knows a nickname that Her sub simply hates, then that’s the name to use — of course!
Addressing him by that name becomes a cue to drop instantly into sub-space, or at least to “assume the position” and be ready to perform as Her slave. The real advantage of this is that it gives Mistress — and only Her — the option to initiate slave-play. If he wants to but She does not, too bad. There is no way for him to initiate, and that’s part of his humiliation, his training, his submission.
In fact, She may decide that if he makes himself obnoxious about hinting when She’s not in the mood, he will simply undergo a severe punishment the next She does decide to play. And Goddess help the guy if his response to Her cue is to say he’s not in the mood or has a headache: you don’t want to know what that little moment of disobedience will cost him!
In response to Nickname? Pet Name?.
Originally posted 2009-11-08 10:40:16. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
BDSM Sans Eroticism
I posted this elsewhere about five years ago. I still think that kink and fetish whether F/m, M/f, F/f, M/m has an erotic root.
Sexuality embraces far more than coitus or orgasms. I find expressing submissiveness, being whipped completely satisfying experiences in themselves. But my power exchange and S&M orientation stems from my erotic nature. It is an inextricable component.
Some submissive men (the person quoted below not included) try to make their submissiveness nonsexual as a way of making it morally pure. False sexual purity belongs in the graveyard of hypocrisy.
From an ongoing discussion of D/s on usenet:
Me:
I can’t imagine asexual D/s. Or at least BDSM that is wholly divorced from eroticism.
Brian:
As someone who is also asexual, I thought I’d offer my perspective on this too.
Firstly the BDSM. For me at least, as a bottom/submissive/switch, the key element is sensation play. Whilst I do enjoy various elements of eroticism within that, it’s certainly not the main reason why I enjoy BDSM.
The caress of a flogger, the sting of a single-tail, the depth of inner peace from a well executed scene that has both the mind and body tingling with pleasure. These are the things that I enjoy the most. On occasions where sexual stimulation has been part of the scene, I found that it often conflicted with any sensation of well-being, to the extent of breaking down sub-space, rather than enhancing it. For me, it has to be either sensation play or sexual play, but not necessarily both together.
I’m not sexually attracted to any particular gender, will happily play with anyone, whatever their gender, and I can watch or participate in many scenes without the least sign of arousal.
Indeed, when I was first collared by a Mistress, I was permitted the privilege of shaving her genital area, which had absolutely no erotic effect on me. Later in that same relationship I was involved in some very intensely sexual scenes, but purely from an observational aspect, with the ‘threat’ that I’d be punished if I were to become aroused during those scenes. Little did she realise at the time, that it wasn’t the perceived ‘threat’ that kept me from any state of arousal. Yes, it was interesting and indeed fascinating to watch, but on the arousal scale it did nothing for me at all.
Asexual D/s is much the same. In the three D/s partnerships I’ve had, sex has never been part of, or even the objective of the relationship. It’s been the pleasure of giving part of myself for the pleasure of the Mistress I was serving, with rewards for good behaviour etc. Usually those rewards consisted of sensation play or mind games, either in a club environment or occasionally in private scenes. On occasions where punishment was deemed necessary, those rewards would be withheld. The fact that sex wasn’t on the menu, never once spoiled my enjoyment of either her company or the scenes we did.
At a private club event a couple of years ago, after a fairly intense scene I arrived at the buffet table to get some well earned food for my play partner & myself. Standing next to me was a naked young lady, also getting some food. That moment just seemed so surreal – here I was, in a situation that many of the male population would sell their souls for, and yet was so natural and casual, and for me at least, not at all erotic or arousing – just nice.
As an asexual, I do however, find it a fascinating situation to be in, surrounded on all sides by sex and sexual scenarios, whilst having little or no interest in that aspect myself. If anything, I feel it adds to the trust that I’ve built up over the years, that even in highly charged sexual situations, I’m safe person to have around.
Angela St. Lawrence’s comment prompted this entry elsewhere: Asexuals and Masturbation.