By bootlicker.

Margaret Thatcher, a consummate dominant in Her public and vanilla-world way, said once that Being powerful is like being beautiful — if you have to say it, you aren’t. The essence of civilized domination is that a a true Dominant Woman never has to raise Her voice or scream at Her slave (Think of The Godfather — speaking softly!). The contrast between a Mistress’s soft allowing a slave to serve Her, permitting it to debase itself at Her feet, contrasts all the more with the fact that She will be obeyed. Her power is enough that She never has to lose Her temper. She gives a quiet suggestion, and if Her slave hesitates before obeying instantly, She doesn’t have to say a word: one cruel lash across the slave’s naked back, or face or whatever part of its anatomy is convenient, is all that’s needed. In Middle Eastern cultures where real slavery is genuinely practiced, not for the sake of BDSM, but that’s the way life IS, the custom is to speak politely, even request, as Richard suggests his Lady Alexandria might do. Well-trained slaves know what will happen if they don’t give 150% obedience at once. So, too, with our BDSM world. Both Mistress and slave can be happy with such an arrangement: One knowing that She has actual power, and the other reveling in obedience and submission. That’s why, when a command is carried out, Mistress can say that She is pleased by Her slave, and the slave, in turn, thanks Her for the privilege of serving Her (with, in this house, a warm kiss on Her toe)

By bootlicker.

Far better than a “legally enforceable contract” (which cannot exist under U.S. law, though it might elsewhere) is the willing agreement of a slave to serve its Owner. Like a successful sale, this arrangement depends on mutual consent and satisfaction. The couple can have a set of rules written down, if they wish. But perhaps even better is for the Owner to have full freedom to make the rules, change them at will, and enforce them as She pleases, and for Her slave to trust and accept Her will completely. That is, after all, the true essence of slavery and submission: there is just one rule, Obedience (for the slave) and Command (for the Owner). All the rest is just details. It’s probably good to have a way to discuss things if necessary. A safeword will trigger a conference: the rules may say that durng this conference, the slave may freely ask or suggest, but the Owner has the final say on what will be done. It all comes down to trust. If the slave trusts its Owner, then it will accept Her decision — on anything. After all, an Owner wants to keep Her property in good working order and serviceable, or there is no point in the whole business. In the worst case, if She does cause the death of Her slave, She will eventually be caught up by police and tried for murder … all that is worth avoiding, so She has a motivation to make sure that Her slave stays alive and well. On the other hand, if both have chosen well, the slave will be motivated to serve as expected, to avoid any more pain than he will certainly endure by the sheer nature of the relationship.

By Herbootlicker

Fellatio is degrading only because we think it is. If Mistress enjoys it, and wishes to suck Her slave’s cock, that is Her right.

It’s also Her right to stop five seconds before he climaxes, and let him suffer whilst She laughs (the slave is immobilized, of course, all the while, so suffering is all he can do).

The suggestion about spitting it all back into his mouth and making him swallow it is priceless. Thank You, Mistress, this worthless creature kisses Your feet in eternal gratitude.

The same effect is achieved when Mistress is pleased to have Her male in fact fuck Her, then forces him to lick Her clean. If for some reason She prefers not to be fucked, then there is always forced slave masturbation on Her feet, shoes or boots, followed by his licking Her feet or footwear clean.

The special quality of this is two-fold. First, males (as all Women know) lose their keen excitement as soon as they ejaculate. It’s no longer exciting sexually — but to whipped and forced to eat the cum becomes truly and genuinely humiliating!

Second, a male regards his sperm as his most important product, the essence of his genetic identity, and all that. Instinctively, he wants to deposit it in the womb of a female to procreate children carrying his own DNA into the world. But here’s what happens: his offering is spurned; he is made to spill it at the feet of his Goddess, who looks down on it, and him, as filthy dirt soiling Her immaculate Self.

The slave then must use his mouth and tongue, not a rag or mop, to clean this dirt from Her feet (or perhaps even from the floor at Her feet!) and swallow it, dashing his hopes of fathering a child.

When you combine those two thrusts of humiliation, a slave truly feels like less than nothing. For a real masochist, it’s heaven!

Response to Fellatio and Dominant Women.

Originally posted 2009-11-09 20:00:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Thinking of dominant women what are the top three attributes you look for?

• Physical Beauty
• Cruelty
• Dominance
• Intelligence
• Empathy
• Loving
• Shared Fetishes
• Good Job
• Or?

Originally posted 2008-04-07 17:58:59. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

By bootlicker.

Adjusting for the world of Female Domination and heterosexuality, here are some suggestions: 1. She is invariably addressed as “Mistress” (not “my Mistress,” because that implies that She belongs to the slave that is speaking), 2. The phrase most used, of course, is “Yes, Mistress;” a very close second, though, is “Thank You, Mistress” (anything that Mistress does or says is a gift to Her slave, even if it is only a few seconds of Her valuable time; when She takes the time and energy to correct or train Her slave with the whip or the cane, the slave shows gratitude for Her attention). [NOTE: Richard is not a fan of the custom of capitalizing pronouns referring to the divine top, but it's a habit hard to break, and some of us feel more comfortable. Thank you for your indulgence, blogmeister.] 3. “Being Mistress means never having to say thank you (or I’m sorry either, for that matter)” If a slave does well and deserves a compliment, then She says “I am pleased” or “Well done, boy.” It is the slave that then says “Thank You, Mistress,” expressing gratitude for the privilege of serving. Similarly, She does not ask, She commands. If She has reason to soften Her orders, She says “Now you may [prepare supper, lick My toes, etc.]” It is, after all the slave’s job to do these things, not a favor to the Owner. A slave could say (a la Jeeves) “Mistress, would You like …” or “… would it please You to have Your slave [bring You ---]” 4. If Mistress has a policy of Her slave not speaking without permission or command, She may institute a signal, such as knocking its head on the floor at Her feet, or perhaps saying a phrase such as “May it please Your grace…” [or whatever title She wishes used]. 5. If it pleases Mistress to have it so, Her slave may be required to use the neuter third person rather than the first. That is, saying, “This slave begs You to allow it to …” or “May Your slave please go to the bathroom, Mistress?” The concept is that a slave refers to itself as a thing rather than as a person, admitting its intrinsic inferiority every time it opens its mouth to speak. Then in a really tight situation, the slave can crank up the self-abnegation another notch: “Please, Mistress, this worthless dog begs Your mercy on this piece of dirt at Your sacred feet …” (to which She replies with another lash of Her whip, no doubt!). Some fiction pieces get so complicated that it takes five minutes for a slave to seek permission to speak each sentence. This is a waste of the Owner’s precious time, in fact. But a few rules of chivalric courtesy and servile respect will help a relationship remain stable and keep both parties properly in place, top and bottom. Finally, it can only be repeated: any advice like this is only suggestion. She makes all the decisions, of course. While a slave does get the last word, that word is invariably “Yes, Mistress; thank You, Mistress.

By bootlicker.

Nudity is the ultimate humiliation for a human being’ CFNM is probably the ideal system. A naked male slave is vulnerable. In an urban setting, it will not escape or run away. Similarly, in the wilderness (imagine a large castle in a forest) it will be exposed to the elements. Of course, it has no defense against Her whip. The Clothed Female, on the other hand, is physically protected: Her slave does not soil Her Imperial Person when it licks Her feet, because it licks only the leather soles of Her boots. She is human, whilst Her slave is a mere animal (the collar helps, of course!). Finally, of course, the right sort of clothing (e..g., a leather or latex catsuit, perhaps) renders Her more sexy and attractive for being unavailable and hidden than Her nude body would be (at least to some males, including this one). Because She is in control, of course, She can dictate whether She shall wear clothes or not; Her comfort and convenience are paramount. If it pleases Her to have a slave’s tongue inside personal parts of Her person, that is Her call. Furthermore, if it pleases Her to have Her slave wear certain clothing, She will be obeyed. If the slave clothing She commands is uncomfortable, silly or demeaning, that is Her prerogative. This humble one suggests that for a slave to dress in Female garments is a sign of the male creature striving above its station, trying to appear better than it intrinsically is. But this is a matter of opinion — and it is Her opinion that counts, 100%, so if She wishes it so, it will be so. Clothes, as they say, make the man. Logically, then, a naked slave is nothing. Makes sense, doesn’t it?

For me romantic love and submission are hopelessly intertwined, in fact I can safely say they are one and the same. That is not say I cannot enjoy a good whipping from a recently met acquaintance, but I believe that is more masochistic than submissive.

In that love, romantic or otherwise has an element of putting another’s likes, interests, satisfaction ahead of one’s own, of submerging one’s self, it is submissive. Generally love is not looked at and defined as submission. The emotional rituals of courting in a vanilla relationships are very similar to those establishing a D/s relationship.

However, in a vanilla relationship one doesn’t get all the wonderful kinky stuff. Too often people define D/s in terms of bondage, whips, chains and etc, but those are a fun expansion of one’s sex life. If dominance and submission were not a part of our emotional and psychological make up we would not have individuals who identify themselves as sub or dom.

My guess is if someone finds romantic love incompatible with submission, for him, at the current time, the two are incompatible. My problem is I’ve always found romantic love impossible without submission.

(Old newsgroup posting.)

The language of some submissive guys when they talk about female led relationships at times makes me think they want their wives and girlfriends to be mommies.

It is rather as if they are harking back to childhood when their mother made them dress properly, be polite and to a large degree managed their lives for them.

I was on the edge of using the word maternal but I don’t think that is the proper term (in this instance), no more than it is boyishness.

Rather it sounds more like a license to be immature and force someone else to be the decision maker. If I were a woman involved with a man like that I’d find the burden of omnicompetent vigilance over another person draining.

(And this of course excludes couples that enjoy mother / son play.)

Looking for – or to be – a mommy?

Originally posted 2008-02-04 06:56:32. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

She’s the boss is one of the most frequent comments left here. I.e., she’s the boss and it is OK for her to tell me to do anything regardless of consequences, ramifications and how you feel about being told to do whatever.

In that case she’s more than a boss and has more authority that most real life kings and queens have in history.

When men present their wife or girlfriend as Dictator-in-Chief I suspect them of just being wankers. They are off in some hot hormonal fantasy and not a real female led marriage, relationship or love affair.

Couldn’t she just be the senior partner?

Originally posted 2008-03-09 16:47:02. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Not a very deep question to be honest. But I’ve been wondering about this on and off shortly after discovering the female led relationships subculture.

There’s a word I don’t recall my parents or their peers using. None of my married friends have ever employed the term.

The word is hubby. And I’d swear that I’ve seen it used in female led writings and blogs over and over again.

I’m not saying this is a wicked thing. Just curious as to why?

Originally posted 2008-04-20 15:28:41. Republished by Blog Post Promoter