Self Acceptance
Some women struggle to accept their desire to dominate. Those feeling are much less likely to afflict dominant men. And perhaps some women need a few moments reflection to understand that a submissive male is not necessarily a spineless wimp that she’d never want in her life.
Even more often are initial feelings of guilt as they begin to discover and explore their sadism. Pleasure in inflicting pain contradicts the popular images of woman as empath, nourisher and healer. Surely wanting to hit your boyfriend or husband with things is just plain evil.
But by various means - bless you - many of you step past the social stereotypes, are able to more fully realize your sexuality and make happy the men who need you.
True Stories
I thought it might be possible to inveigle a few of you to share a female led relationship* true story or two. Nothing is more helpful and really more interesting than what people actually do.
Happy or sad; the relationship of a lifetime or a pleasant interlude. As brief or as long as you feel like.
* Whatever term works for you.
Underwear for Submissive Men
Panties, something traditional or nothing at all …
State your preference:
- Boxers
- Briefs
- None
- Female Lingerie
Why?
Female Led Silliness
After considerable meditation, prayer and fasting I’ve come to a conclusion. Here, at the end of the year, I want to select something that strikes me as about the silliest bit of female led relationship folklore.
A man sitting on the toilet is submissive.
This kind of nonsense is espoused by the kind of silly clown that equates equates feminism with using the spelling womyn.
A man should sit on the toilet to urinate because that is the norm for women. But when the inferior male emulates the superior female it is a mark of humility. Or something.
You heterosexual people come up with some really baffling crap, you know that don’t you.
I sometimes sit to piss. I’m reading and don’t want to stop.
Happy 2009.
How To Meet A Femdom!
I get tons of messages asking how to meet someone for power exchange. Mostly from men looking to serve women.
If you are wanting to know something as precise as “How can I meet a woman who will make me lick her toilet clean while making me wear purple panties?” I just don’t know what to say.
If you want to know how to meet a dominant woman - and not a dominate woman - then I’ll point you at one of this site’s sister websites: Femdom Dating. It isn’t a hookup site but a collection of tips and suggestions.
Best of luck.
Female Supremacy is Anti-Feminist
A feminist perspective on female supremacy:
The fact is that what the feminist movement really proved besides the capabilities and importance of women, but also the amazing power of humankind in general. We can ALL accomplish great things. Another important thing to take into account is that it’s not just men who do horrible things. Women are just as capable of epic asshattery as men. The Spanish Inquisition could not have happened without Isabella of Spain. Phyllis Schaffly and Anne Coulter somehow have vaginas. Bloody Mary slayed millions of people in a horrible act of religious genocide. And let’s not forget the proof that a woman candidate is not necessarily a woman’s candidate: Governor Sarah Palin. So no, you can’t really say women are all that much better than men if you really look at it. It depends on the person, not the gender. That’s really the basis of feminism in the first place.
Whole article with comments: So-Called Female Supremacy: Another Enemy of Feminism
Dominatrixing to a Different Drummer
Many submissive guys seem to think women role off the femdom assembly line complete with corset, thigh-high boots and riding crop. The effect of porn working on their perpetual psychic meltdown.
What makes you distinctive? Do you see yourself as special, different, good in some aspect of your life? Elegance, skill at bondage, measured sadism or more humane qualities (which I’m not going to list because I know that would insure they be chosen). Something quirky, highly individual?
It is only human to think we are good at some things.
Punishment or Pleasure?
I can’t imagine pain being used to make me a better person. I like getting whacked for the sheer pleasure of it.
Spankings: punishment / behavior modification or just for fun?
Disciplined Domesticity
This illustration of a women giving a man an over the knee spanking with a hairbrush - no dominatrix clothing in sight - seemed apt for this site. A 1960s fetish ‘zine.
Many people write about how relaxing OTK spankings. Some folks invest considerable time and money into acquiring a dedicated punishment brush.
Do You Care If a Man is Your Boss?
I’ve been woefully negligent in using this site to address themes facing women. Possibly because in the distant galaxy I come from women are people.
Even if you aren’t sexist, heterosexual female dominance can be colored by gender qualities. If only so very faintly.
Does your desire to dominate men - even if just in the bedroom - affect your feelings about the gender of your employer? If their virtues and values are equal do you can whether your boss is a man or a woman?
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